As with lying and torture, war so rarely works the way you want it to:
"The United States, in three years of war, which began with shock-and-awe bombardment and goes on with day-to-day violence and chaos, has been an utter failure in its claimed objective of bringing democracy and stability to Iraq. The Israeli invasion and bombing of Lebanon has not brought security to Israel; indeed it has increased the number of its enemies, whether in Hezbollah or Hamas or among Arabs who belong to neither of those groups."
That's lefty historian Howard Zinn, but his argument doesn't require that you agree with his positions on other issues.
"America must attack Iran even if sets the Middle East on fire, because the Iranians are crazy and might set the Middle East on fire."
As is often the case, women have a firmer grasp of these matters, from ancient Greek drama to present-day Colombian reality.