To the editors:
It has been quite interesting to follow the response over the past two months to the article entitled "Tot Control" (November 13). As a parent whose situation was discussed there, I admit these letters have provoked much reflection.
Unfortunately, the majority of those folks who felt the need to respond to this account of the Tuesday's Child program obviously didn't feel enough need to find out anything more about the program from any source other than the Reader. (The article was good--but incomplete, given the nature of the medium.) Two representative examples of these types of respondents wrote for the January 15 issue.
A Mr. Elliott wrote about "fist psychology." Even if this approach doesn't border on the sadistic and his children are "dominant in all situations, and without any doubts" (ideal qualities for a pluralistic society such as ours!?), can we agree that this is the best way to parent, applicable in all situations? A Ms. Frischer, child psychotherapist, asserts categorically that Tuesday's Child participants promote "attitudes and values that are destructive and shortsighted" and are not loving care givers. If I were to evaluate a psychotherapist in the same manner in which this one so quickly comes to conclusions about such a complex set of issues as child rearing, I would have to simply dismiss him or her as utterly incompetent.
If anyone really wants to know more about the Tuesday's Child program then go and find out--beyond the pages of the Reader. Hmm, what if everyone did this every time an important issue was raised by a newspaper? We might at least get more thoughtful letters to the editors.